Tinder Posterized Media Outlets Who Trashed Them For Ruining Dating And Helping Married People Cheat

OHHHH YOUR FACE NANCY JO. I’m obviously a bit biased towards Tinder given the weekly roundup and that I think it’s a really interesting evolution of our culture. But I always love when a company goes in on lazy pageviews reporting especially when it’s this obviously fake. I get marriage isn’t that sacred of an institution any more but to think that 30 PERCENT of a dating app is made up of married people, especially for an outlet of note like Adweek, is illogical as hell.

Then you have the Vanity Fair article that I linked to in last week’s roundup that probably everyone has seen on their Facebook feed from some single jaded friend. The premise of the article is that Tinder’s endless supply of options have ruined dating and is the reason the current generation are more focused on hooking up and ghosting rather than forming something meaningful. Tinder came out firing with some basic logic:

Then mayyybe got a bit too precious about an app that mostly features girls lying about how they like getting their assholes eaten:

Stop trying to make Tinder Generation happen. It’s not going to happen. But they also made some really good points:

And that’s the point here to me. Tinder is an evolution in how dating works. Are there down sides to an endless buffet of dating options compared to previous generations that had to pick between a smaller pool? Sure. It’s dangerous to always know that there’s something else out there and end up chasing perfection or at least something new as a result. But that’s what being a human being is. You have free will, you make your own choices, and eventually you compromise with yourself to figure out what works for you. Maybe you can live with a girl who’s a little chubbier if she’s fun to hang out with. Maybe you don’t mind dating a girl who’s less entertaining because she’s skinny and has big tits. It adds a degree of difficulty for sure but it’s how society evolves. We have more choices but we also have more opportunity.

If anything, having more options out there in the world gets you closer to that age-old idea of a soul mate. Do you honestly think all of these people in the previous centuries were meeting all these amazing passionate once-in-a-lifetime connections within a 25 mile radius? What are really the odds you’d end up with this person in a city like New York where there are literally THOUSANDS of places your ideal mate could be at and the odds of you crossing paths let alone having a meaningful interaction that ends in love? Slim to none. For all its potential flaws (primarily from human error), Tinder offers way more positives in the way of possibly making a meaningful interaction or not.

And that’s what it boils down to: Tinder is what you make of it. We as a people have the tendency to be the proverbial poor mechanics blaming our tools. If a particular woman stops fucking on a first date on Tinder or at least treats herself with some respect and makes a guy earn it, maybe guys will try harder to “woo” her like a more conventional courtship. And if a guy wants something legit, then he can choose to not sling innuendos around and actually try to get to know chicks. And if either one wants to just find randoms to bang out in a divey bar bathroom, they can choose to do that too. It’s an evolution of how people view the dating world but, like with anything in life, you get out of it what you put in. All I know is I’d rather live in a world where I have a greater chance of getting things right rather than settling for someone solely because she’s there.